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2015 Water as a Stone – Birch Gallery, University of Kent, Tonbridge
After the initial shock of a death, with its acute pain and physical outpouring; an individual is often abandoned to personally understand the meaning of their loss and their life now, while facing the reality of their loneliness and vulnerability. This can take years or even be unresolved as grief is often buried away or placed in cold storage.
The process of grief is solitary and private in our society, with religion or counselling often being the only sanctuary where we feel safe enough to grapple with our memories.
Like the precariousness of life, the process of ‘coming to terms’ depends hugely on the environment, support and the individual's skills at processing the grief. With reference to our historical and universal preoccupation with death and the afterlife, there is no alchemy, but an evolutionary optimism that the ice will eventually melt.
"The ice is melting, separating, becoming fragmented and thin. The change is non-dramatic, a non-sublime, ordinary shift that may be part of the cycle of ice 's existence". Esther Leslie (1964) Permafrost, Liquid Assets P253